Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Porn Isn't Taboo Right?

Joseph Gordon-Levitt is a treasure. A perfect, beautiful, sexy, talented, brilliant, hunk of a man. Anyone who says otherwise is stupid. Or blind.

Hi my name is perfection

I went to see Don Jon with my cousin Jamie and sister Sarah last night. (Unsure if I've ever introduced them on my bloggity blog so there ya go). It was funny, well written and actually got me thinking about our current culture. 

Quick overview for those crazies who haven't heard of this movie. It's basically about a guy obsessed with porn. And how we react to media in our culture and the influence it has on us all. Oh and Scar Jo is in it and she's pretty hot. But mostly it's about porn.  

Am I allowed to talk about porn here? My mom reads this so it could get awkward but ultimately I don't care if I'm about to offend people by talking about porn today. (This was definitely not where I saw this post going today). PORN PORN PORN. Come on guys, it's a pretty big thing in our generation. It's not your parents Debby Does Dallas anymore. At least that had a story. Nowadays it's 2-5 minute clips of the most unrealistic sex I've ever seen. I get it. Our generation likes things quick (I've got the ex-boyfriends to prove it, heyoooo). That was a joke. But really, our generation is moving at the speed of light all the time. We're looking for the easiest ways to get things done. When it comes to Porn, that includes free websites.

What this leads to though, is men seeing an unrealistic idea of what sex is and should be. Guess what, the money shot? Typically never gonna happen for you. Those sounds she's making? FAKE. Same for you girls, his "size"? NOT realistic.

While I have no problem with guys watching porn, please just remember that what you are watching is is not an accurate depiction of what real sex is and should be (most of the time).


On a side note, another thing that struck me about this movie was Scar Jo's reaction to Don Jon's porn habits. Okay, yes, 35 times in one week is a little bit extensive bro, but she was just 50 shades of crazy about it. Am I outside the norm for girls? I think it's okay for my boyfriends to watch porn. I actually think it's kind of weird when they don't. I just assumed it was a natural and healthy expression of their sexuality. As long as they didn't bring some of porn's expectations to our lives, then go for it bud. Are most girls disgusted by it? I'm genuinely curious. Why is it such a big deal that your man occupies himself when he's bored. We watch romantic comedies which, as is pointed out by JGL in this film, give girls an equal unrealistic outlook on dating.



One last thing. Girls watch porn too. It seems to shock most guys I talk to. But we've all seen it. Any girl that says she's never seen it is lying. How do you think I learn what some seriously questionable terms mean? Half my sexual education came from the classroom and the other half from the internet.

And girls, don't be so uptight.






4 comments

  1. You're the second person I've seen to review this movie today! I was convinced before, but I'm determined now! I have to see it!

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  2. I love this post. Everything about it, and I agree with you 100%. Although, I would be upset if my boyfriend was watching porn INSTEAD of *ahem* hanging out with me, but that usually isn't the case. I think there is just such a taboo thing about porn that people feel like they should act that way.

    I once heard my roommates get into an argument about 50 Shades of Gray, one was saying that it was just porn you read and that the one reading it was going to hell. What?

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  3. makes me interested to see it! Maybe I will later today :P

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  4. I'm glad you posted about this. I've been struggling with it in my own relationship. See, I was originally like, dude. Go for it. Watch the porn. And then, I got tipsy one night and we watched some together and I seriously felt like I needed to go to confession the next day. #personalissue
    These people were sharing the most intimate act in all of humanity with anyone with a screen and a mouse. It cheapened the acts of sex and the people watching them (i.e. my boyfriend and I) somehow.
    I made the mistake of putting myself in their shoes and wondering what sort of change I would have to go through to be okay with sharing my body and my --fake-- orgasms with random strangers? Is it empowering? If so, what would have to shift in my brain to make it feel empowering? Because, right now, sex with the man I love is incredible and it's private and it's intimate and is more than physically getting off. So... it *seems* like something negative to change that into something that isn't intimate or shared personally.

    On an interesting side note: if boys really start watching porn at age 11 now (a stat I read somewhere and seems legit), and then they don't have "real" sex until college, they have an entire decade of knowing and understanding sex through porn. When I thought of it that way, if that's how I would want my son to come to understand the meaning, methods, and philosophy of sex, I thought... No. I don't really want that.

    So, anyway, this is a long rant from a person you don't know and it doesn't really say anything. But, you posted about it. Someone linked to it. I'm struggling through this very issue. And, now you have a novel of a comment. lol

    Hope you have a good weekend!
    xo

    Sarah

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